Not sure if this is on topic here or in the moderated thread or in the
locked thread, but I’ve been meaning to ask you folks about three related court cases.
Foote v. Ludlow School Committee
Lavigne v. Great Salt Bay Community School
Regino v. CUSD
What they all have in common are school districts which sought to facilitate the social transition of young students without informing parents of the child’s intent to transition. I expect that all three cases will ultimately be dismissed or settled, basically for the reasons given
here towards the top of page 17.
Legal complexities and jurisdictional differences aside, all three cases raise the question of how far a school should go in helping a minor child to transition when the parents or legal guardians have not yet been informed and—quite probably—medical specialists have not had the opportunity to assess the child for dysphoria. We probably already agree that the school should not be providing puberty blockers or cross-sex hormones or gender affirming surgeries, but there is plenty of room for argument and shades of gray as to the process of social transition (e.g. pronouns, teams, locker rooms, etc.) and non-medical interventions such as binding and tucking.
Okay then, what say you all? How far should schools go?
I personally don't think the schools should do ANYTHING so support or encourage transition without informing the parents. My position on this actually has very little to do with gender identity, it has to do with schools inserting themselves as a barrier within a family dynamic without EXTREMELY good reason to do so.
If a kid went to their counselor and told them "I want to be a goth, I want to dress in all black with heavy makeup and express my depressive sad internal self while I'm at school, but I don't want my parents to know about it" I would be extremely opposed to the school supporting a complete change of clothes and helping the child make sure their makeup was all washed off before they went home.
I don't think schools should assist children in keeping secrets from their parents.
That said, there are times when it may be appropriate for a school to intervene, but in very particular circumstances and in very specific ways. If there is reason to think that a child is being abused, then a school should be obligated to report that suspicion to the police and/or social services. If a child exhibits a significant change in mood or behavior, then it's reasonable for a school counselor to spend some time with the child to find out why, and to make sure that it's not a result of abuse at home. But if there is any reason to think that a child's change in mood needs treatment, that needs to involve the parents (or social services in cases of abuse).
FFS, kids aren't allowed to have tylenol at school these days. My friend's Type 1 diabetic child isn't even allowed to have their insulin on them while at school - it has to be locked up in the nurse's office! If medically necessary treatment of children by themselves with their parents and doctor's knowledge and support isn't allowed, why on earth would any treatment without that knowledge be considered reasonable or appropriate?
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With regards to non-medical interventions such as binding or tucking, that's a hard no from me. Both of those present health risks. Binders *bind*. They cause the same sorts of health problems that old-school corsets do, including ligament damage, stress fractures to ribs, skeletal deformity, lung stress, problems breathing and the subsequent circulatory issues, and so on.
I know less about tucking... but I honestly cannot see how forcing a male's testicles up inside their body can possibly be safe and healthy. Seriously, I had always assumed that "tucking" just meant sticking the penis and testicles down beneath the perineum, buffalo bill style. I was aghast when I found out what it actually was.
There's the additional aspect involved with binders and tucking, in that it involved adults giving children undergarments without their parent's knowledge, or adults talking to children about how to handle their genitals without their parent's knowledge. And quite simply, there is absolutely no situation in which I think that's appropriate - it's a complete transgression of safeguarding principles. Gender identity being a hot topic right now does NOT justify tossing safeguarding out the window.