EC, do you not see the vast hypocrisy here? A good part of your argument in these trans and drag threads have been that men should not speak for an experience that they have never been through and can never be through even when we are relaying the experiences and thoughts that women have conveyed to us.
Now, here, you are arguing to know what is better for the trans people in your life than the people who are actually living their own experiences, simply because you are witnessing it. You aren’t even trying to relay their views or positions, as others and myself were trying to do, but only your own opinion of it.
You can’t have it both ways. You can’t shut down discussion because I am trying to relay the perspectives of women, trans, feminists, etc. that I know and have had these discussions with, because I happen to be a straight cis-man, and then pronounce judgment on people whose life experiences you will never know and, from the sounds of it, haven’t bothered to take the time to listen to.
Now, as I have been saying, I do know trans people. I interact with them on a regular basis for around 2 decades. When a former coworker announced that she was transitioning, I was able to connect her with the correct local resources to start the evaluations the right way. For all the fear mongering over doctors rubber stamping people, there are legitimate paths and evaluations to help facilitate the transition.