angrysoba
Philosophile
Maybe that's not what it's supposed to mean. But it isn't just people who take affront who are interpreting it that way. There are also people who believe in the idea that being male is inherently toxic, and use "toxic masculinity" to mean that. You can say that they too are misinterpreting what "toxic masculinity" is supposed to mean, but they're part of the conversation whether we like it or not. So the group you refer to sees that group and reacts. And then everyone's angry and nobody is actually listening.
Sure, but there will always be people who think they understand something and do not. That is never going away. There are people on both sides of the argument on evolution by natural selection, both who affirm it and deny it, who actually have not got the first clue about it. There are people who think that evolution is essentially a Lamarckian process and will laugh at the Christian fundamentalist dip ***** who don't get it. In that case both are wrong, but that does not mean that evolution by natural selection is wrong, and to try to dispense with the idea on the basis that "everyone gets angry" is a non-starter.
As for "toxic masculinity", I remember an episode in which Sam Harris talked with an ex-neo-Nazi who said he and his (all-male) gang used to spend their weekends getting into a bit of fascism, getting drunk and beating up ethnic minorities. At the end of his interview, he took questions from the audience and one of them got up and asked Sam Harris about the idiotic idea of "toxic masculinity" to which Harris responded that if he had not just heard an hour and a half of very detailed examples of toxic masculinity then he did not know what to say.
Instead, it seems that people who want to deny the existence of it as a meaningful concept are those who like to argue "They are saying all masculinity is toxic!". I seem to remember that Peterson himself took this line when he criticized an APA report about what toxic masculinity is or at least the "risk factors" of being male. The Very Bad Wizards took this idea to task when they pointed out the report was made largely on the back of people complaining about a similar report that had been made for women and wondered, what about for men?
Here is Jorpy complaining about that, getting almost into a rage about it and then retorting with a bunch of non-sequiturs.
The report, from what I can see, is clearly saying that both harmful and positive aspects of masculinity exist:
Supporting the positive
It’s also important to encourage pro-social aspects of masculinity, says McDermott. In certain circumstances, traits like stoicism and self-sacrifice can be absolutely crucial, he says. But the same tough demeanor that might save a soldier’s life in a war zone can destroy it at home with a romantic partner or child.
“There are times when you need to be able to power through,” McDermott says. “But if you only do that, and you believe that if you don’t do that then you’re somehow less worthy as a person, that’s where you have a problem.”
The clinician’s role, McDermott says, can be to encourage men to discard the harmful ideologies of traditional masculinity (violence, sexism) and find flexibility in the potentially positive aspects (courage, leadership). He and his team are working on a positive-masculinities scale to capture peoples’ adherence to the pro-social traits expected from men, something that has yet to be measured systematically.
And again, for anyone who doubts that there is any "tradition" of violence or sexism in masculine behaviour, just look again at examples of neo-Nazi behaviour, gang culture, football hooliganism, general alcohol-fueled domestic violence etc...