I've never said I think trans people should be excluded from mainstream society (nor have any of the current thread participants, to my knowledge)
If you don't think females (by the standard biological definition) are entitled to male free spaces, activities, and representation, then - yes, you are going to be considered misogynist. Are you also denying that females have been oppressed because of their sex?
Being told that the way a male identifies is more important than their objective reality at best looks misogynistic, even if not the intent.
& frankly I suspect you know the women you call TERFs are not misogynists.
As to gay rights, denying same-
sex attraction is about as anti-gay as you can get. There's a reason Iran and some of the fundamentalist Islamic countries prefer their people being trans to gay (I know I've seen at least one right wing US politician with similar views - maybe another thread reader can remind me).
That's serious conversion therapy (no, you're not gay, you're trans!)
Again, take a look at these compilations (which are not exhaustive) and tell me you don't see misogyny and denial of same-sex attraction
https://lesbian-rights-nz.org/shame-receipts/
https://photos.google.com/share/AF1...&key=bTMzMDNKeC1vbkFkRjlqTHJKM284RU1IQ3JkSlF3