A tacky wavelength.
Are we really going to nitpick this? The point is that the entire process is physical and mundane, and the words we use to represent various parts of this process don't change that nature.
The words we use are models of that nature. Different words can represent different models, and no model is necessarily (nor needs to be) the true nature pf the thing it models.
Wavelength/frequency is a one-dimensional model, referring to points on the spectrum of pure hues. But those colors are only seen from certain sources that produce single photons or monochromatic light. As you no doubt already know, but didn't want to directly acknowledge, pink is not any wavelength.
Visible light can in principle have any mixture of photons of different frequencies. If we want to characterize a specific unique color, then, it might seem we would need a very large number of data points, amounting to the information in a complete intensity spectrum across the visible range of frequencies.
But in fact, most of our useful color models have not one, and not a huge number, but three dimensions. That's indirectly related, in a somewhat complex way, to the physiological mechanisms of how we sense color. Those mechanisms are objectively real, so we have a good basis to believe the resulting subjective experience of color matches three-dimensional color models for people who have normally functioning color vision. A specific experienced shade of pink is neither a specific frequency, nor a specific spectrum, but a point in an abstract model. Pink isn't physical; it's computational.
And color gets more complicated still. Contextual subjective color perception veers very far away from wavelengths. If frequency or even a specific mix of frequency relates directly to the experience of color, what's going on
here?
Many art students take at least a full semester course in color theory, exploring color models and their applications in art and design. The color frequency spectrum of light will usually be covered in the first lecture, and the rest of the course builds from there.
Saying color is the same thing as frequency is like saying language is the same thing as the letters of the alphabet. It's not nitpicking to point out otherwise.