People, in my opinion, are hiding behind this unable to get over the fact that this level of overwrought pedantics is "perfectly normal" as long as the discussion is "philosophical" in nature.
Yes, undeniably.
This idea that "philosophy" as this vaguely defined collection of mostly nonsensical epstimologies hangs over every discussion Sword of Damocles style, ready to take over the discussion and rewrite its rules to nothing with more intellectual weight than a mass creative writing exercise where "Who has the biggest imagination wins" on a whim does ring true to me.
"Philosophy" is not one thing, but there is much truth to what you write. "Philosophy" means love of wisdom. It is very true that much of transpires within its "realm" is utter bollocks, to use a term from across the pond.
The very act of breaking things down to epistemology vs other ways of interacting with the world may be one of the bigger mistakes. That was Descartes' move. It is similar to Plato's attempt to reconcile, essentially, Parmenides and Heraclitus and arriving at the Forms.
But even if I did buy that, why it is invoked in some discussions and not others is still the central core point.
That one is easy. Because it's something that people care about. Yes, it is a form of special pleading. But there is another issue, which gets back to Descartes -- a chair not being evident in a room has no way to demonstrate its own existence. It is just a brute fact of nature/human construction. A god is different since it is defined as a being with thought. A being with thought could, in theory, demonstrate its existence by thinking -- the Cartesian cogito.
Using examples that deal with that issue would probably help the argument along. Otherwise, I'm with you. Yes, there is a type of special pleading going on. If it ends up boiling down to a Cartesian argument, then there is a direction to explore for future arguments. This is, in large part, why I mentioned the green dragon 'problem'. Plus invisible green dragon is an oxymoron.
Until someone can cough up a non-special pleading reason or non-purely semantic reason we can say "There's not a chair in the room" in a room with zero evidence for the existence of a chair in it without triggering this level of existential crisis, I still don't see what's even being argued here.
For chairs there is no issue. For gods there is one -- and it will always be in the area of 'care', what people really care about. No one devotes this much energy into a debate that one does not care about.
"I can make a conversation go on forever if I'm just anal enough?" Yeah we all get that. That's pointless nothing.
If that were all that it was, then I agree. I'm not entirely convinced that is the case in all situations. Clearly folks engage in such debates for a reason. And it may be that they do so only to justify their preconceived notions of how they view the universe. Let's be honest, that is how humans work most of the time. I would hope there is something more to it, but that may be an idle wish.
I have engaged in debates where that seems to be the case -- if I outlast you, I win. I have no interest in that approach.
I will leave you with one of, what I think is, the best quotes from the old JREF site from one of my favorite posters -- "Metaphysics is largely a pantload."