That's basically what I read. (I was the one who made the comment that inspired this thread).
that confirms my hunch.
Agreed. To understand my request to the doctor, you must step into my shoes. I'm a chemist and there are only a few things in my science that are "maybes". I deal in a world of stuff that is or isn't.
So, here come these guys who tell me my perfect kids may have a mental dysfunction. So, I argue and they tell me that the diagnosis is not based on any one thing but on a system of behavioral characteristics. Then, they tell me they're going to put my kids on speed. A bit much for a parent with my type of wiring, I'm afraid.
Anyway, the docs were very kind and patient with me and explained as much as I could absorb. Of course, I supplemented this with a lot of reading and have absolutely no doubt that these guys were correct, after all. Still, I wish there were a way to diagnose different syndromes with a simple test but that is not in our toolchest yet.
I'm not ready to admit that ADD or ADHD are illnesses, though. I believe they are maladaptations to our current society. One of my older son's psychologists observed that these maladies have probably been with us since time imemorial and that, in hunter/gatherer systems, the ADD/ADHD traits were probably benefits, not deficits.
We've avoided putting our 9-year old son on Ritalin, even though there's been some pressure from the school. But there's no way any doctor or psychiatrist would suggest putting him on Ritalin without our say-so.
For one thing, he has some tics (which come and go) and we don't want them to get worse.
But the main reason is that
he doesn't want it. That may sound odd, but he's an equal partner. We know some kids who really resented being put on Ritalin.
We would send him to a school with lower pressure, but it's an hour's drive.
So he's been put in a class for students with mild disability, even though he's in many ways very bright. He's not literally bouncing off the walls or disrupting things. Actually his anxiety is a problem, more than anything.
I have no doubt that Ritalin would help his performance even though there's nothing really wrong with him. He just isn't the kind of kid who does what he's told. He does what he loves to do.
I don't have a lot of faith in the diagnostic ability of the schools, and now they're under a lot of pressure because of the MCAS. They teach to the test.
I would give him Ritalin, except he and my wife are both dead set against it. I think it's a reasonably safe drug. It's been around for a long time, and as far as I know, nothing horrible has emerged over the years.
But I'd be very surprised if it is diagnostic. Just as I would be surprised if caffeine is diagnostic. I would think most people perform better, temporarily, on stimulants, including improved concentration. But that's just what I've read somewhere...
The notion that he's anxious in response to some home situation or that we're rotten parents is a non-starter. What's different these days is the schools and the philosophy about medication.