A world without democracy, human rights, science or freedom might be horrible and "evil" to you, but it's what many millions of people want. As I said before, it's all about your cultural background.
You are confusing the fact that millions of people THINK that something is good, with the fact that it IS, in fact, evil.
To give the most obvious example from recent history, millions of people in Germany honestly believed that exterminating the jews and the enslavement of the slavs was good.
So?
Freedom, human rights, democracy and scientific knowledge are ESSENTIALLY good; their opposite--slavery, opression, theocracy, and religious ignorance are ESSENTIALLY bad. The fact that "millions of people" disagree is of no more consequence than the fact that millions of Germans wanted the jews dead. Moral truth, like scientific truth, isn't decided by vote!
Sure, if I had grown up in a deeply fundamentalist muslim home, I would have preferred slavery to freedom today. But if I had grown up in a flat-earther's home, I would probably believe the earth is flat today. But so what? The earth is still round, and slavery is still bad.
Freedom isn't necessarily needed to be happy, it isn't necessarily what EVERYONE wants.That's what you need to understand.
I understand it all right. It's one of the main causes of evil in this world, since those who hate freedom don't simply themselves into slavery to avoid its horrors; they don't want ANYBODY to be free.
I like freedom (or at least the illusion of freedom of choice),
I like chocolate ice cream.
and I couldn't live without it. But at least I realize that some people don't want that. Some people need a spiritual leader to show them the way, to tell them what to do. And I'm not gonna tell a foreigner what they need to do or think, and I expect they won't do that to me either.
But that won't work, will it?
Those who hate freedom hate it ANYWHERE. They don't want ANYBODY to have it. To expect those who hate freedom and love religious fanaticism to respect your rights to anything, is like going into the alligator cage in the zoo and expecting not to be bitten if you agree not to bite THEM.
On what basis do you--an inferior infidel of a decadent culture (according to them)--DARE to NOT want to accept the blessings and insights of islam? How can such an heretical demand be entertained? No, Mr. Infidel; you have no right to do so. Don't you know all the world must be awakened to the truth given to Muhammed by Allah--whether they want to or not?
It's about empathy and accepting that there are different cultures in the world,
...like Nazism, for instance.
and that everyone doesn't necessarily want your capitalist system.
Indeed so; the Nazis, for example, were national SOCIALISTS--fighting against the evil, jewish-controlled capitalism in the decadent democracies. Who are you to tell them they were wrong?
(Oh, and it isn't "my" capitalistic system. It's at least "our" capitalistic system, presuming you live in the capitalistic west. No fair enjoying capitalism's fruits, and then claiming that it's all somebody else's fault when dealing with its problems because it's "my" or "their" system and not yours.)
But I'm just saying that, strapping yourself with bombs and blowing yourself up for your cause is an act of desperation.
No, it isn't.
It is done by fanatics who think they will WIN if they do so--a place in heaven for themselves, islam on earth for their brethen. The more you try to give to such people to stop their "desperation", the more convinced they become that they ARE winning, and the MORE--not less--suicide bombings you get.
You want to stop suicide bomings? MAKE them desperate! Convince them that nothing they'll do will help spread islam! That will stop it in a second--even fanatics don't like dying for a losing cause.
I must say that, for someone who claims to "understand" the culture of the suicide bombers, you are remarkably off the mark in just about every point in your understanding of their culture.
You essentially treat them as WESTERNERS who just HAPPEN to have some odd ideas about liking slavery better than freedom, or theocracy better than democracy--just like some westerners prefer, say, Democrats to Republicans (or vise versa), or for that matter, chocolate to vanilla ice cream.
This is seen by the fact that you think it reasonable to expect that they will respect your desire for freedom (they won't); that you they hate freedom because it makes them "unhappy" to be free ("happiness" in the western sense of the word has almost nothing to do with it); and in thinking that if they commit suicide, it must be out of desperation (because that's when westerners do it.)
You are completely wrong on all counts. They will NOT respect your right to freedom. They do NOT hate freedom because it makes them unhappy, but because it is totally alien to their entire world view, happy or not. They do NOT commit suicide bomings out of desperation, but out of a sense of impending victory.
You do NOT "understand their culture". All you have is a naive--and dangerous--MISunderstanding of it.
I'm thinking there should be attempts to understand that, to understand what's going on in the minds of these kamikazes, how their culture made them what they are.
Indeed.
Is there other ways to solve that problem than to lob missiles at them? I believe there are.
There are. But not by using your view. On your view, making them happier and accomodating their desires will stop their "desperation", and hence, will stop their suicide bombings, while they surely will agree to destroy freedom only where THEY rule, and leave you alone.
But in reality, all such appeasements completely misunderstand the psychology of the other side, which sees all such "understandings" of their view as nothing but weakness and a sign for further demands and threats. The more we will do things according to your idea, the worse the problem will become.
You just have a VERY naive view of what you're up against. And, to make matters worse, after a lifetime of seeing morality as a personal preference, you cannot recognize evil, even when it blows up in your face and kills thousands of people.
Your view of the matters was tried before, from 1933 to 1939. It was called "appeasement". It doesn't work.