Being able to draw a few parallels does not make two cultures equal. Their mothers probably breast feed the infants too but that don't make our La Leche League savages too. The OP pointed to the Taliban blowing up schools. If you think that they will be pacified if left alone then you & I are on opposite sides of a very wide chasm.
Who said anything about they being pacified by being left alone? It is physically impossible to leave them alone; the only way they could live their dream would be to quash hope of a better life elsewhere within their nitdom, and that is a hopeless cause when any able bodied teenager could look up and see a jet contrail, or hear rumors about a better living over the nearby mountain ridge. The schools teach that people can have a better life than they do, and are,
ipso facto, a threat, not only the girl's schools.
The ultra-conservatives on this continent of which you speak are few and far between. When they blow something up they are made pay the piper as quickly as possible. Same thing needs to happen over there. Rule of law. Knowing this enemy means knowing that they are primitive savages in a brutal and lawless land. Their kids deserve protection any way we can provide it.
...and I'm absolutely pro-education and protection of such. What makes you think I'm an apologist? As for he conservatives, some people in the south, for example, think that life was best in ante-bellum Georgia and would like to see it restored, which is just as hopeless as the Imam's desires. Some Native Americans want the Europeans, all of them, to leave so they can once again hunt and commune with nature. Many Christians have a favorite time in their past they want to relive, from walking with Christ on the Mount of Olives to burning witches in Salem, but there is no putting the genii back into he bottle. And the question is not really which of us has such dreams; I personally would like to have lived in small town America in the late 1800's. The question is, how hard do we push to see our dreams, crazy as they are, realized? The Moslem radicals push a lot, Don Quixote notwithstanding, and they are dead serious about it.
My belief is that even if the Israeli state evaporated overnight and the Palestinians alone were left on their desert rockpile, enmity with the west, particularly the Great Satan, would not cease. Radical Moslems know the value of an overwhelming enemy in the achievement of their goals.
You aren't going to win such a struggle if you don't know what is motivating them, or over-simplfy it. Don't cease to learn.