Thanks everyone. My feeling at first was "this is wonderful, another culture!" But having raised a beautiful, athletic, strong girl, it hurts to see anyone belittle her. I should think most families would welcome her with open arms (especially when you look around at most women today). No body art, no weird piercings, great grades, looking at a high paying career...
She really decided that was IT. She felt she needed to find someone more outdoorsy too. Plus, she is really close to us, and could see she would have to make a choice with which family would come first. He really doesn't have the choices even a Chinese American would have. In China, the choices aren't there.
Plus, the family has LOT of money. As Pool Boy put it, how did all these communists get so rich? He has trouble with our frugal lifestyle.
So, why isn't it over? Well, nice guys are hard to find today. And he's sad....and she is softhearted. She breaks up with him , he gets sad...
I go, "it's doomed, let it go" in my head, but being a wise mom I just Listen. I needed other input. I really like this kid, so does she. So, it's hard...