Naw. I am always happy when posters on forums, who would probably like one another should they meet in person, can be agreeable towards one another, all the while holding dear to their beliefs or advocacy, yet respecting those of their foe (or at least rebutting in a reasonable manner).
This doesn't apply to those posters who are obvious jerks but I don't place you or Machiavelli in that category.
christianahannah, I appreciate your efforts at always trying to play the middle ground. I think you want to see the good in everyone; I do, too. That's why I am a very big fan of mediation, reconciliation, restorative justice and reparations. I am opposed to retaliation and punishment. I also am opposed to people not taking responsibility for the wrongs they have done to other people.
If you are honest, there comes a time when you want to acknowledge reality. As SkepticGinger, the originator of these threads, said many times, either Amanda is guilty or she is not. It is not realistic or even helpful to say that the truth lies somewhere in the middle, or that you don't want to make a decision about it.
That doesn't mean you have to stop being fair, or you have to start hating anybody. If someone dear to you does a bad thing, it is fair to see it and to say that they have done a bad thing. If someone has behaved in a way that is beneath their dignity as a human being, then those who care about them should ask that they acknowledge their faults and try to correct them, for their own sake as well as the sakes of the people they hurt.
Everyone makes mistakes. Some people make bigger mistakes than others, but all mistakes can be acknowledged and corrected (to the greatest possible extent), no matter how big or small.
I like almost everyone I meet in person. However, I don't think it is kind to expect people to sit down and "be agreeable towards one another, all the while holding dear to their beliefs or advocacy," when their beliefs or advocacy harm other people. Would you sit down with criminals, sexual abusers and exploiters -- or their advocates -- and pretend that everything they did was okay? That is not really connecting with other people -- that is avoiding connecting.