Foolmewunz
Grammar Resistance Leader, TLA Dictator
@Foolmewunz, I like your description and think it's reasonable in what it covers. I think it excludes subtle but meaningful discrimination that shows up in disparate outcomes. Where does the difference in call backs of names from different cultures fit it? Or disparate sentencing for defendants of different races?
To a degree, I think everything can be crammed into one of the categories I mentioned, but if we wish to catalogue the entire gamut of experiences, we could probably create sub-groups within sub-groups.
My main contention is that both bigotry and institutionalized racism are the ugliest and need to be fought, tooth and nail.
Ignorant racism needs to be addressed, but grabbing the person by the forelock and smashing their head against the wall, even figuratively, is probably not going to gain many converts. How much easier and more convincing to say, "You're likely not aware because you weren't exposed to it in Elfswidge (I hope I made that town up) in the 50s or 60s but black lawn jockey statuettes are considered very offensive to persons of color because they're a throwback to the antebellum south when the black kid doing that duty would be a slave." As opposed to: "Check your privilege. This racist **** doesn't float around here."
I'm not sure what you mean by call-backs of names from different cultures. Not a term I'm familiar with.
Different sentences for people of different races? That's pretty clearly institutionalized racism and needs to go into that category.
Two of your possibilities - situations without agency and the experience itself. I'd define the former as situations without racial intent. One aspect of privilege is the ability to say or do things with racial implications without realizing it. Consider the widely discussed phenomenon of white people asking to touch black people's hair.
I know this wasn't addressed to me but it's part and parcel of much of the same as what I was addressing. No, intent is not magic, but it is a word with a meaning and if we're going to have any kind of serious discourse, y'all need to stop dismissing it as though it has no import whatsoever. The story of the courier delivery is a prime example. I've experienced something similar, myself. The guy who used the expression "you people" likely realized afterwards, "Damn! Bad choice of words!" I know I did. But the guy who took it originally as racist probably also thought afterwards, "Damn! I've gotta be careful to not jump to conclusions." If it ended that each understood the other, then I think both the experience and the intention were important.
My version: It was '81 in New York. My first wife and I were heading home and there were a couple of guys hanging out chatting in front of our building. One or two tenants and someone who worked there. One was black - a very well-to-do architect who my ex had a huge crush on. As we turned into our lobby/foyer, there was some noise from up the block and my ex said, "Oh, the natives are getting restless, I guess." The black guy looked at her and said, "Natives??" So, it wasn't me... it was my ex,... She coined an oft-used phrase at just the wrong moment. And she felt like crap for days afterward. The black guy? We often ran into him in a neighborhood pub and he apologized to her several times for HIM MAKING HER FEEL SO BAD, because he knew it was unintentional.
Oh, and Asian kids want to check out white people's hair all the time. Does that make them racists? The Thai girls at the 7/11 fawn all over three or four kids in the neighborhood here, and one of them is not the world's most gorgeous kid, Marcello. They all just love the anomalous blond/blue Russian babies. The Gerber baby stands out here because they're rare. It's curiosity. They're not treating the kid like an exhibit in a zoo and the Chinese kids aren't tugging on my leg hair to condition me to accept them as my superior. They just haven't seen this sort of thing and are exercising the unfettered curiosity that a kid will exhibit.
And I've seen Chinese women ask my friend Andrea if they could touch her hair, too. Are they exercising privilege or racism? Trying to control Andrea? Or are they just curious as to what long red silky hair feels like.
Is an insensitive Chinese woman trying to leverage a position of power over a western woman? Is the Chinese kid pulling my leg hair trying to remind me that I'm inferior. Or are they just culturally not attuned to things we are. I've had long tresses and I've had goofy white and black males and females who hadn't experienced long hair on a guy ask me if they could touch my hair. I never felt oppressed in the slightest.
A lot of this "... but my experience can't be ignored" is just plain wrong. If your experience tells you that because I sip my orange juice before I take a bite of my eggs it means that I secretly want to fornicate with a donkey, why should I give it the slightest credibility? But if you have some rational reason for feeling that, well, then you explain it to me and while my breakfast experience has nothing to do with donkey fornication, I'll at least be able to see which inter-planetary shuttle you came in on and can elect to not traumatize you again should we ever share breakfast. But that's a matter of me being a nice person and thinking in terms of not wanting to offend someone if the drama can be avoided. It has nothing to do with "the experience is correct", because it's catching-moonbeams-in-a-jar crazy.
Oh, and especially Andrea... when she was visiting Taipei my best friend at the time, Syau Dzou would say, "Oh, I have to brush up on my Mandarin - Andrea's coming." She speaks and writes Chinese like a native.