Back to questions of doctrine, I still have an issue, as others obviously do, with the basic question of how children suffer and what one should do about it.
In most religions where prayer is practiced, it is considered a good thing to pray for your child's health, that he or she be delivered from death. If the object of the prayer occurs, God is often credited with it. Sometimes even with a miracle. In any event, when the object of a prayer occurs, I don't think there's any religion that says God has betrayed the person praying by granting the wish.
At the same time, in most religions, and certainly as Janadele has expressed her take on Mormonism, when a child dies young, even under extremely unpleasant circumstances, God makes it all right, takes the child into heaven and this is also seen as a positive good, a blessing. This blessing can obviously be granted only to children who die. If their parents prayed for their deliverance, clearly they did not get what they prayed for, and yet in most religions it's found, post facto, that God did not betray them by denying the wish.
So God gets the credit for bestowing blessing no matter what happens and no matter how unpredictable an outcome might be. That's obviously a stumbling block for those disinclined to believe in prayer. It would be informative for a person inclined to believe in prayer to come up with a good account of this problem, preferably not a rehash of the very unsatisfactory fudges that have occurred so far from so many sources.
More important, though, it seems to me, is the basic question of where this dichotomy leaves the person praying. If early death is a blessing, then a parent praying for a child's deliverance is being selfish. Selfishness is generally considered a sin itself, and certainly a poor motivation for prayer. There is a clear paradox here. If denial of a prayer is a blessing, how can the prayer be made without sin? If both denial and granting of a prayer are equal blessings, then the prayer is clearly superfluous, and should be omitted entirely.
So, what I'd like to hear from Janadele or another spokesman for the Mormon point of view is what their policy is on prayer, or more specifically, on petitionary prayer. What is permitted, what required, and how this paradox is addressed.