So much of this starts in childhood, or at least starts at an age before you really know what's going on. If you've been programmed as a kid to associate food with love, friends, family, celebration, special occasions, curing bad moods, etc, then your future is kind of written in stone, it seems.
It sounds like I'm blaming parents but of course parents are just one small factor in the behaviors a kid picks up -- peers, media, etc all play a factor. And they all point toward, "Eat, eat, eat, eat, and also being fat is horrible and you should feel bad."
The forces pushing you in that unhealthy direction are mind-boggling.
I think I agree with this. Many children are taught to see food as a reward, a gift, a proof of love and belonging. I can see that directly leading to serious weight issues if they grow up stuffing food in their mouths everytime they have either a good day or a bad one.
Is there anything that can be done to prevent a kid from getting programmed that way? What can be done to solve this problem with society?
When I grew up, kids were shooed out the door the moment they woke up for "fresh air and sunshine". I remember a typical weekend day meant eating a bowl of cereal, then rushing out the door and staying lost 'til I was called for dinner. I spent my days playing with my dog, riding my bicycle, playing ball in the street, and building backyard forts for miniature wargames with the boys in the neighborhood.
Now, parents spend their weekends in mortal terror of letting youngsters out of their sight. They keep 'em indoors watching tv, playing board games, or texting all day long, and everytime they get bored they wander into the kitchen for a snack, and never, ever miss a meal. The fear of pedophiles, kidnappers, bullies, rabies from dog bites and even social services makes the parents err on the cautious side and if a kid participates in any sports or activities at all they are structured group events.
I live just a few blocks from one of the same grade schools I attended as a child. When I was a student there the playground was full on the weekends. Kids played basketball, raced on the ballfield, hung upside down on the monkey bars for hours.
Now, I drive by there and the gate is locked and the grounds are deserted. I suppose the school is afraid of lawsuits if an unattended kid gets hurt, and I understand that. But I also believe that lock is a huge factor is the number of kids that are 20 pounds or more overweight. They just no longer have the lifestyle that makes a kid become completely lost in the joy of climbing a 30' tree or or riding a bike nine times around the block or getting into a snowball fight with a bunch of semi-strangers from five blocks away.
It's just too well understood they will have a sit-down breakfast, and be home for lunch, and afternoon snacks and back again for dinner. They will be supervised every minute (and what adult wants to stand there and wait while a kid rides around the block nine times?) and called on the phone every two minutes if they wander around the corner. If they ever leave the house at all.