I spent the last 4 years in and out medical treatments for a spinal injury. I didn't follow the Knox case because I wasn't that functional. From the little I did grasp, it was a perfect storm of police incompetance and a sensationalistic media rush to judgement. Ya know, kinda like this case.
Other than grief and media fuled sense of outrage, I don't know what motivated the Kerchers. Having never had children, I'll never know the pain of losing one. (I hate that word, would someone please offer me an alternative? When your child dies, you don't "lose" them)
I see the Martins reaching out for some peace. They want to set up a foundation to do whatever possible to keep this kind of thing from happening again. I believe they are caught up in some of the whirlwind surrounding this case and they are emotionaly and mentally vulnerable. If, in 4 years, I hear them carrying on about how justice wasn't served, the jury was wrong, the judge was wrong, stalking GZ or harrassing his family, I'll reconsider. I think the Martins are the only ones out there who haven't spoken ill of GZ or his family.
Grief does very powerful things. It wrenches reason and balance out from under the mind. The support system goes into overload and people say and do hurtful things to themselves and their loved ones. My father died 6 months after I got married. On the day of his burial, I said some horrible hateful things to my husband. Sarcastic, biting comments that came out of nowhere. He's a wonderful man so we're still married, 16 years later.It doesn't always turn out that way. I got to deal with my grief in a private way.
The Martins don't have that courtesy. Do you honestly think they'd rather have the limelight right now than their son? Yes, he had a couple of behavioural issues that both parents had to deal with. None of it that bad, though suspension is never a good thing. No idea about the alledged incident concerning the bus driver, the jewelry thing is still full of holes that need to be filled in, or maybe not, the spraying grafitti on the lockers, yep, some issues but I doubt he was headed to jail.
I had spondylolisthesis and degenerative spinal disease. I wish it had been something like jousting! Much better than bad genetics.
My spine looks like a mosaic with nothing holding the pieces together. Then this bizarre thing called disruption of the inner costal nerve band. Related to shingles. So spinal surgery to fix what they could, nerve block injections for the pain, some drugs to kill the pain without stealing my life from me and medical marijuana. I have a horse I can't ride, dogs I can't show and a professional life unfinished. All very depressing, and yes, a lot of grief involved.
Might as well ask the same question about Emmett Till or the Rosenbergs.
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The FAMU hazings were kept quiet for decades, this latest incident is just the tip of the iceberg.
I worked on the case where the kid was beaten so many times that his kidneys shut down.
Thanks GWCarver
I did not mean to imply you had never suffered grief. Every person does at some point. I've missed my father every day of the 15 years since he died but he had cancer and we knew it was coming. Didn't make it easier but you sort of expect a parent to die. My SiL's father was killed by a drunk driver. We've discussed it often enough that we know neither way is easy. I nearly went mad watching my father waste away and being in so much pain he barely recognized us.
From those who've suffered through it, I've learned you never get over the death of a child. No matter the cause, parents aren't supposed to bury their children. Sybrina Fulton and Tracy Martin are dealing with this tragedy the best way they can right now. They're probably still in shock. Until the hordes of media and AS and JJ move on to the next "cause", I doubt they're getting much time to breathe, much less grieve. I could tear up easily at thought of the two of them, sitting in a strange motel room, looking at each other and wondering how the hell they got there. Sometimes, my imagination is a little too vivid for my own good.
