You said they ought to have their feelings hurt until they grow up. That is a judgement that their feelings are wrong and ought to be altered. Why is it your right to decide that their feelings are wrong and ought to be altered?
No, it's an opinion.
We could both use your logic though. You saying that I decided their feelings are wrong is a judgment that you think I think their feelings should be corrected. Why is it your right to decide that?
I simply think it's the logical result if they choose to have a belief system that requires them to be offended at something that is none of their business. They CHOOSE to be hurt. No one is actually hurting them, they are simply DECIDING to be hurt and then trying to blame someone other than themselves. No judgment is being made on my part at all.
The assumption is that if somebody doesn't do anything bad to you then you don't do anything bad to them, unless your absolutely can't help it or there is some even more pressing reason for doing something that would hurt them.
No. The assumption on your part is that you can decide that someone else's actions that have absolutely nothing to do with you can be claimed to be hurting you and then you can accuse them of damage. That's bogus and nonsense.
You don't have the right to tell me that my burning a book is doing something bad to you. My burning a book would be none of your business and you need to demonstrate actual damages. Otherwise I can just claim that you posting on this forum hurts my feelings and therefore you are posting here to hurt my feelings. That too would be a bogus argument.
In some countries they get upset if you hold your hand up towards them, knuckles outward with the middle finger extended upwards.
And the same holds true there. IF someone makes the decision that they want to get offended by such a gesture, then it's their problem. They could also just as easily choose to not be offended or hurt by something as petty as a configuration of fingers which does not harm them in any way.
Some people might even punch you if you do it.
And those people would go to jail for ACTUALLY harming a person.
I think we can both agree that it is silly and irrational to become upset by the configuration of somebody's fingers.
Absolutely. And even more silly to claim one has a right to accuse the person holding the fingers of hurting them. And even more silly for that person to then justify actually hurting another being.
So ought we to do this to everybody as often as possible until they grow up?
No, that makes no sense and has nothing to do with what I said. To grow up we need to stop deciding to be offended at things that are of absolutely no harm to us.
Or should we accept that if it offends them and they have not done anything to deserve being offended that we should just decide not to do it?
WRONG. I cannot accept such an immature and senseless notion. What we should accept is that if we DECIDE to be offended by something, then we DESERVE to be offended when someone does it. If we DECIDE not to be offended by something that is none of our business, then we won't be offended by it.
We should accept that we have no right to accuse people of hurting us when they do nothing to hurt us.
Is it really such a curtailment of free expression if I decide not to flip the bird at an innocent bystander?
No, it is a curtailment when you try to stop someone from expressing themselves by trying to make false claims of damages. It's a childish behavior. A grown up would understand that a gesture or a book burning in no way harms them or threatens them. A grown up understands that they have a brain and can make decisions on such things.
If you decide that something so petty such as a configuration of fingers hurts your feelings, then I personally feel you deserve to have your feelings hurt. At least until you (proverbial you) decide to grow up.