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Transwomen are not Women - Part 15

First off, I have a job and I don't post on the weekends. I tend to post Mondays and Fridays, if time permits - and it often doesn't. I'm not about to ignore paying work in order to appease your ego.
None of which has literally anything to do with what I said. I said you ignore questions I put to you, but you demand answers to yours. Do you think that is fair and reasonable? Do you not see the 'Thermal quoted you' icon on your alerts?
Some of your answers have been fine. Often, if you don't get a response from me it's because I have no objection to what you said. Sometimes I refrain from commenting because you've already had seven people pile on and there's no value to me piling on.
And I can't tell if you are agreeing or ignoring the response. What I can tell is that you repeat the same questions/criticisms later as if I hadn't addressed them squarely.
Many times, however, your answers are non-answers that tap dance around giving a clear and direct response. You hem and haw and redirect. It's become very difficult to get something concrete from you.
As I've said many times, I am heavily conflicted on this issue, perhaps irreconcilably. So I join a discussion on a skeptics forum, hoping to see the points weighed out. But there's only one side here being argued. The rest of the forum has en masse abandoned it.
Which questions?

ETA: What I'm taking away from this right now is that somehow you think you have good and noble reasons for objecting to the laws under discussion, but you think that the rest of us have bad and nefarious reasons for objecting to them... but you're not going to tell us what your reasons are, nor are you going to tell us what you're assuming our reasons to be. All you have is an empty assertion that you're a good guy and we're all bad guys because you said so. It's not convincing.
No. Seriously, no. I've argued that many of the justifications for being anti-trans are bad. Very much so in many cases, which I have gone to lengths to engage in.

Meta point: I am not one of you guys, who digs into a position and argues it for years. That's pointless on a discussion forum.

What I am looking for here is what I would expect on a skeptics forum- a nuanced consideration of the various angles, and how critical thinkers would resolve it. That's not 'me good, you bad'. I may very well be the worst person here. But one way or the other, I'm looking for a more satisfying resolution than that offered by either extreme. Color me optimistic.
 

The SC ruling simply says that you can't describe your space/service/organisation/whatever as being specifically for a single sex (i.e. for women, or men, or boys, or girls) and then allow members of the opposite sex to also access/join it. That's the only way to interpret the Equality Act such that it makes a lick of sense.

If a majority of the members of the Women's Institute want to extend membership to males there is nothing stopping them. All they need to do is change their rules for membership to include both sexes, and change their organisation's name to reflect that change. Instead they chose to keep both the rules and the name, whilst complaining they weren't been allowed to do something they had chosen not to do.
 



No apparent concern about how allowing males to access (what use to be) female single-sex spaces might affect the mental health of female victims of male physical and sexual violence.
Oh Tnoes! Some males could be unhappy and have hurt feelings that make their mental health worse! In order to avoid hurting the fee-fees of some males... we need to force all females to relinquish their right to consent, oblige us to accept potentially dangerous males into spaces where we're vulnerable, and surrender our hard-won rights. Seems totally fair... :rolleyes:
 
Alright. You know how you keep saying that you largely support the gender critical view about sex-separated spaces? And you know how the rest of us keep saying that you're inconsistent in your arguments?

This right here is *why* we say that.

We're talking about sex-specific spaces and services. That's pretty much the only thing any of us cares about. If a male wants to wear dresses and make-up out in public, none of us cares. Go for it, have a blast. But that does not make a male into a female, and therefore such a male doesn't gain access to female single-sex spaces merely because of what they say their internal feelings are.

Taking the view that in terms of public policy related to intimate spaces and services, the word women means females of the human species is NOT restrictive against transwomen UNLESS you believe that transwomen should be granted access to female-specific intimate spaces and services based on what they claim their gendery feelings are.

So your statement quoted here is a prime example of the inconsistency of your position.

If you think that males should be granted access to female spaces on the basis of their internal feelings, then you do NOT support sex-separated spaces. If you DO support sex-separated spaces, then using the sex-based meaning of the word women is NOT prohibitvely restrictive to transwoman.

You can't logically hold both of the views that you claim to hold - they're contradictory views.
Ok, EC. That's your example? Really, that's the one? You're not doing to double back and say 'ok that wasn't a good example' after I get through with it? Ok, here we go:

Note that I say I don't like that, not that 'therefore I support it's polar opposite'. Do you see that? do you understand that at any level at all?

I've said many times, I'm conflicted about this. That doesn't mean that I am pro-TRA and want co-ed showers. In fact, I've been unwavering on that point (although you keep insisting that I support it). And I don't paint you all with the same brush. As I pointed out to you repeatedly (and you also repeatedly deny), I have neve once lumped you in with the Bashers or called you a bigot. There are three main stances on your side ITT: traditional conservatism, hard-core fear/distrust of men in general, and inarguably blatant bashing.

I loosely have you in the second grouping. Remember the Big 5 post, where you tried your hand at probabilities? You were off by two orders of magnitude. Being off in an equation is no big deal, it happens all the time. But my argument was that being so far off should have set off alarms and stopped you cold, unless that absurd percentage already fit in your worldview.

Like, we know transpeople make up roughly 0.5% of the population. So if you ran probabilities that came up with transpeople being 50% of the population, you would stop cold and say 'wait a sec, that's utterly absurd'. But what you said was 'that seems high', and went merrily along with it, with 5 other posters cheering you on.

That acceptance is indicative of you and the other 5 holding utterly absurd starting assumptions, lurking in your thinking. None of you have addressed that. That further indicates you are all willfully embracing those utterly ludicrous starting assumptions. It has nothing whatsoever to do with making a mistake. It has to do with why you choose to cling to it.
 
No. Seriously, no. I've argued that many of the justifications for being anti-trans are bad. Very much so in many cases, which I have gone to lengths to engage in.
***WHAT*** justifications do you view as being bad? ***WHAT*** justifications do you view as being good?

This is exactly the point I was trying to make - you very frequently do not answer the question at all. Not even an attempt. You said that 'my side' has bad reasons for arguing against laws that increase risk and harm to females, and that you personally had good reasons. But you have never yet bothered to explain what those reasons are. Additionally, you determinedly persist in mischaracterizing my views as "anti-trans". I'm not anti-trans as I (and pretty much every other participant on the gender critical side) have repeatedly explained: Out in the world I give literally no ◊◊◊◊◊ how a person presents, I'm happy to have males who like to wear dresses and females who want buzz cuts - I do not care at all, that's nothing more than personal expression and certainly no more shocking that Prince or Annie Lennox. What I do care about, as I've said so many times I feel like I might lose my voice, is the safety and dignity of female human beings. Something you pay lip-service to also caring about... while simultaneously and derogatorily calling me "anti-trans" for holding the same view that you keep insisting you hold.

And again, I will repeat: What question of yours have I not answered that can actually be answered and isn't an absurd misrepresentation tantamount to asking when I stopped beating my spouse or required evidence that cannot be attained in any rational way whatsoever? Give my a question that you feel I've ignored.

Over the past couple of months, this has become a pattern. You make a bald assertion of some sort, and I ask you to provide either support for your claim or (more often) your reasons and thinking for holding that view. You refuse to give an answer and instead go on a bender about me not answering your questions. I ask you which questions, and you give a wishy-washy response that doesn't include a question of any sort, and continue to complain that haven't sufficiently bowed to your demands. All the while you continue to evade providing your own views and perspectives. Seriously, most of the time I'm not even asking you for "proof", I'm asking for your personal reasoning and assumptions, or I'm challenging an implicit assumption that you seem to be working from.
 
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Another profound misrepresentation from the bashers at Reddux. I don't know why I bother reading them anymore.

Moore was not a member of that organization at the time, nor are they a member of it now. And the organization did not support child porn; they opposed a sweeping piece of legislation that was effectively a booby-trap in practice. Specifically, any images of legal and consensual sex involving partners over the age of consent being made into child porn, requiring offenders to be registered sex offenders. Like, a 17 and 18 yr old couple who take a sexy pic of themselves becomes felonious if they are viewed by anyone, anywhere.

I agree with the intent of the law. You really don't want a 16 yr old starring in porno movies. But the law has to take real world scenarios into consideration, where the couple that are only weeks apart in their relationship (I was going with an 18 yr old when I was 17) and making that a lifelong registry on the sex offender list.
 
Ok, EC. That's your example? Really, that's the one? You're not doing to double back and say 'ok that wasn't a good example' after I get through with it? Ok, here we go:

Note that I say I don't like that, not that 'therefore I support it's polar opposite'. Do you see that? do you understand that at any level at all?
I'm skipping your personal diatribe here.

***WHY*** do you think it's "prohibitively restrictive against transwomen" to use the sex-based meaning of the word 'women' when talking about single sex spaces and services?

What is your reasoning? What restriction do you think is imposed, and why do you think it's too strong a restriction?
 
As I've said many times, I am heavily conflicted on this issue, perhaps irreconcilably. So I join a discussion on a skeptics forum, hoping to see the points weighed out. But there's only one side here being argued. The rest of the forum has en masse abandoned it.
Yes, because the arguments they presented were poor and did not deal with the inherent conflict of rights over single sex spaces.
 
The SC ruling simply says that you can't describe your space/service/organisation/whatever as being specifically for a single sex (i.e. for women, or men, or boys, or girls) and then allow members of the opposite sex to also access/join it. That's the only way to interpret the Equality Act such that it makes a lick of sense.
My point was not about court rulings (which have been known change policy from the top down) but about how policies are changed from the bottom up via legislative enactments in representative democracies. In those democracies, the parties which pushed trans-inclusion most forcefully were nearly always electorally supported by more women than men.
If a majority of the members of the Women's Institute want to extend membership to males there is nothing stopping them. All they need to do is change their rules for membership to include both sexes, and change their organisation's name to reflect that change. Instead they chose to keep both the rules and the name, whilst complaining they weren't been allowed to do something they had chosen not to do.
I don't have any comment on that.
I join a discussion on a skeptics forum, hoping to see the points weighed out. But there's only one side here being argued. The rest of the forum has en masse abandoned it.
I share this frustration as well. It's gotten to the point where any poster runs the risk of being labeled a trans rights activist (BOO!!!) for suggesting any sort of compromise between the extremes of total inclusion and total exclusion enforced by state or national law.
...the arguments they presented were poor and did not deal with the inherent conflict of rights over single sex spaces.
I don't particularly disagree but they should have made better arguments instead of tabooing the subject matter.
 
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***WHAT*** justifications do you view as being bad? ***WHAT*** justifications do you view as being good?

This is exactly the point I was trying to make - you very frequently do not answer the question at all. Not even an attempt. You said that 'my side' has bad reasons for arguing against laws that increase risk and harm to females, and that you personally had good reasons. But you have never yet bothered to explain what those reasons are. Additionally, you determinedly persist in mischaracterizing my views as "anti-trans". I'm not anti-trans as I (and pretty much every other participant on the gender critical side) have repeatedly explained:
I think in his mind he has explained the good and bad reasons. I think it's down to him believing you are anti-trans. I.e., you both want the same good policies, but you want them because you hate trans people, and he wants them because they make sense. That's the difference in justification that he's talking about.
 
I share this frustration as well. It's gotten to the point where any poster runs the risk of being labeled a trans rights activist (BOO!!!) for suggesting any sort of compromise between the extremes of total inclusion and total exclusion enforced by state or national law.
This is silly. The vast majority of us support social inclusion, but sex-based exclusion in single-sex spaces and services. You know, the places where sex matters? Other than that, inclusion is a fantastic objective.

Nobody in this thread is for "total exclusion", and you ought to know that by now.
 
I share this frustration as well. It's gotten to the point where any poster runs the risk of being labeled a trans rights activist (BOO!!!) for suggesting any sort of compromise between the extremes of total inclusion and total exclusion enforced by state or national law.

Keep in mind you are conversing with posters who are labelled as hate filled bigots not just in this thread, where they can defend themselves, but throughout the rest of the forum, where they cannot, simply because they don't unquestioningly accept every single TRA demand. I see your frustration and raise you exasperation.

As for compromise, the one just reiterated by Emily's Cat seems to me to be the only workable one. If you have an alternative, by all means share it.
 
I share this frustration as well. It's gotten to the point where any poster runs the risk of being labeled a trans rights activist (BOO!!!) for suggesting any sort of compromise between the extremes of total inclusion and total exclusion enforced by state or national law.
Can you give an example of the two extremes, and the compromise you would suggest between them? I don't mean generally. I mean a specific "total exclusion" that has been proposed or enacted, that has come your attention.
 
Gender is not always purely objective, so we communicate things that aren't always objectively black and white.
Your definition of gender isn't objective at all. Operationally, it's completely subjective.
Ok, no idea how you got there. How did you determine that 'traditionally' a transwoman was sincere, but now it's just a crude 'aping'? Why were they sincere before but just apes now?
He didn't say anything about sincerity. He said something about effort. There may be a correlation between sincerity and effort, but they are not synonymous.

And what changed, rather obviously, is the advent of self ID. No real effort is required anymore.

I can't tell if your use of the word "apes" is supposed to be a noun or the third person present tense of the verb "ape", which doesn't actually have anything to do with the noun in context.
I don't know where you get this either. I treat women very differently than I do men.
Why do you treat them differently? Is that difference related to their sex? Or is it decoupled completely from their sex? That was theprestige's point: not that they have to be treated the same, but that the difference is grounded in sex, and not gender decoupled from sex.

I see no reason to treat men and women any differently that's not related to their sex. You have described some of the differences in how you treat them, but you have not said why those differences are decoupled from sex.
That's not a 'for example'. As I've said many times, that's the rare exception.
Um... what? No. There is absolutely nothing about flirting that is rare or exceptional at all. It's quite common.
If you are planning to ◊◊◊◊ them or perform certain medical procedures on them, their sex matters. In the vast overwhelming times we interact, their genitalia is irrelevant.
Then why would gender be relevant if sex is not?
Again, the core problem. 'Human' doesn't matter either, because we are not overly concerned with Koala bears in restrooms. Your flat assertion here is Woman = Biological Female. Ok. That subtly negates the whole concept of transpeople
Depends what you mean. It negates certain concepts of trans people, but certain concepts of trans people are just factually wrong. We need not accomodate every concept out there. Does it negate the concept that certain people feel a certain way? No, it doesn't.
It turns a transwoman, as Ziggurat has insisted, into men pretending. That's a bridge too far for me.
Why?
I've said this several times: you can be definitionally linked without being synonymous. Related, or correlated, as it were. Meaningless, or almost so, if the coupling is severed, but I see no reason to sever all connection, as you assert, to have a functional understanding of gender as unique but strongly related to sex.
How is it related? You've said that it's their "internal sense", but what does that actually mean? Furthermore, you've made several claims based on this definition that don't withstand scrutiny, such as the impossibility of non-binary identity or gender fluidity. I don't know how you can claim that someone's sense can't change over time. I don't know how you can claim that if someone's sense can be something different from their actual body, that it can ONLY be one other thing and not multiple other things. You have never provided any basis for these claims. So I don't think you actually have a robust definition of gender at all. My sense is that your definition of gender is only constructed to the extent that it allows for trans identifying males to claim to be women, and that's where it ends.
Fairly useless in this context. If you insist on calling a transwoman 'he' at the workplace, is that person protected by policy? You seem to be leaning strongly towards removing their protections and allowing you to essentially humiliate, mock, and harass them multiple times a day at work, pointing to your definition of woman.
Is being called "he", on its own, really harassment? Is it mockery? Is it humiliation?

Why?
Denying their existence is not falling neatly under the 'honoring' halo from my POV.
What do you mean, denying their existence? How is noting that trans-identifying males are males denying their existence?
You like to lean on policy as a talking point.
No. theprestige (and myself, and many others) like to lean on policy because that's what has actual consequences, and we care about actual consequences.
Ok, clean pool. But the problem with policy is that it dumbs down the complexities of the human experience into drawing one-size-fits-all lines. The perfect everyday example is transforming into legal adult on your 18th birthday. Nothing changes, but policy intentionally dumbs it down to uselessness for the kind of nuanced discussion we are having here.
Nothing changes? Of course something changes. Age changes.

Now, in the case of age, you can argue that age shouldn't be what we really care about. We really care about things like responsibility, competence, etc., and that age is an imperfect proxy for these other much more complex factors. Which is true: these things correlate to age, but not perfectly, so that some people could be ready at a younger age and some at an older age. But age is, practically speaking, the best proxy for these things that we have which doesn't produce more problems than it solves. Thus, we use age anyways, imperfect though it may be. Do you have a better suggestion?

It sounds like you're claiming that we're trying to use sex as a proxy for other factors, just like age is used as a proxy, but that sex doesn't capture these other factors very well. That's a logical enough claim which I think has some merit, but let's examine that argument in more detail. Yes, sex is a proxy for a LOT of stuff that you might care about. But what, to your mind, are these other factors? And do you think gender is a better proxy than sex for these other factors? Why? From a policy perspective (because again, policy has consequences), we CANNOT write policy based on in-depth complex factors that are hard to access and evaluate. We often MUST use proxies like age for purely practical reasons. And should gender (which, under your definition, cannot be assessed in any objective way even if you think it exists objectively) actually be substituted for sex as a better proxy? Is there any better proxy than sex? Because I don't think there is a better proxy. I think sex is the best practical distinguisher for doing things like segregating sports or bathrooms or changing rooms. I think gender is a far inferior distinguisher for these purposes.
 
Nobody in this thread is for "total exclusion", and you ought to know that by now.
I thought it was clear that I meant total exclusion from all (formerly) single-sex spaces and services such as the various situations we've discussed here over the years; my apologies for somehow conveying the idea of total exclusion from all aspects of polite society.
Other than that, inclusion is a fantastic objective.
Okay, but you do seem to want want total exclusion in all the cases we've discussed above (e.g. locker rooms, sports leagues, Michfest, Kenwood Ladies' Pond, etc.) unless I'm mistaken.
If you have an alternative, by all means share it.
We should seriously consider rolling back the sorts of laws which were passed by progressive states and conservative states and thereby allow market forces to play out without rigging the game for one side or the other, as I suggested earlier at #14,144. For example, instead of mandating that every Korean Spa in the State of California must operate based on gender identity rather than sex at birth, we could go back to allowing individual spa proprietors to decide which patrons they allow in which spaces. For another example, instead of passing bathroom bills requiring sex-based sorting as they do in red states, we could allow individual businesses decide how they want to approach the problem. For yet another example, we could allow the board which manages Kenwood Ladies' Pond to make their own decision on what they mean by "Ladies" instead of making it a matter of binding anti-discrimination law across all of Britain. Some policies just have to be national and top-down (e.g. military service eligibility, national health coverage) but most of the issues we've discussed here could have been avoided or mitigated if we'd kept politicians, lawyers, and judges out of loop and left it to individual proprietors and leagues to say whom they will serve and how.

(At this point, someone will invariably jump in with a facile comparison to Jim Crow, so I'm just going to say that it's a really poor analogy. Sex is real and often salient, whereas race is a cultural construction at best most.)
I mean a specific "total exclusion" that has been proposed or enacted, that has come your attention.
Didn't we already discuss the total ban on transgender military service in the United States? A compromise position would be to allow people diagnosed with gender dysphoria to serve in certain areas where they would not be expected to deploy to the field or share barracks.
 
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I thought it was clear that I meant total exclusion from all (formerly) single-sex spaces and services such as the various situations we've discussed here over the years; my apologies for somehow conveying the idea of total exclusion from all aspects of polite society.

Okay, but you do seem to want want total exclusion in all the cases we've discussed above (e.g. locker rooms, sports leagues, Michfest, Kenwood Ladies' Pond, etc.) unless I'm mistaken.
Do you genuinely think it's an extreme position for females to want to keep all males out of female single-sex intimate spaces?

What compromise position do you think is reasonable and appropriate, and doesn't increase the risk of females or result in our loss of consent?
 
What compromise position do you think is reasonable and appropriate, and doesn't increase the risk of females or result in our loss of consent?
We should seriously consider rolling back the sorts of laws which were passed by progressive states and conservative states and thereby allow market forces to play out without rigging the game for one side or the other, as I suggested earlier at #14,144. For example, instead of mandating that every Korean Spa in the State of California must operate based on gender identity rather than sex at birth, we could go back to allowing individual spa proprietors to decide which patrons they allow in which spaces. For another example, instead of passing bathroom bills requiring sex-based sorting as they do in red states, we could allow individual businesses decide how they want to approach the problem. For yet another example, we could allow the board which manages Kenwood Ladies' Pond to make their own decision on what they mean by "Ladies" instead of making it a matter of binding anti-discrimination law across all of Britain. Some policies just have to be national and top-down (e.g. military service eligibility, national health coverage) but most of the issues we've discussed here could have been avoided or mitigated if we'd kept politicians, lawyers, and judges out of loop and left it to individual proprietors and leagues to say whom they will serve and how.
 
Do you genuinely think it's an extreme position for females to want to keep all males out of female single-sex intimate spaces?
To the extent that implementing that policy ignores the stated preferences of other females, yes.

Women are consistently more likely than men to support inclusive policies, both in public opinion surveys and in their voting patterns.
 

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