Discussion: Transwomen are not women (Part 7)

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It's called "Earth".

Seriously, next time you go to the grocery store, look at the cashier, for example. Does the cashier who checks you out express to you whether they are heterosexual, homosexual, or something else? Because I don't think it's ever happened to me. Oh, I might have my suspicions, but I don't actually know. And sure, I do see public expressions of sexuality, for example couples kissing in public. But constantly? Yeah, no. Not even close.

The one area of everyday life where sexuality does actually come up is in fairly common conversations, with friends, relatives, and coworkers.

It's not at all uncommon for heterosexual people to talk about what they did over the weekend with their "boyfriend" or "girlfriend", "husband" or "wife". They don't generally go into detail about their sexual practices, but people very frequently refer to their significant (or insignificant sometimes) others in casual conversation.

For heterosexual people, nobody bats an eye, nobody even notices. And for homosexual people, it's become a lot more accepted and common to hear a gay male talk about their "boyfriend" or their "husband", and similar for lesbian females. But there was a time not very long ago where a great many homosexual people didn't feel that they were free to have the exact same kind of conversation that heterosexual people had without a thought. Because when they did, it drew attention to their sexuality, it made their sexuality an issue in and of itself.

That's still probably true in some parts of the US, and it's certainly true in a great many parts of the globe.

I will say, however, that there's a pretty stark contrast between this kind of conversation and other kinds of 'sexuality'. If a person is into diaper play or other fetishes or unusual sexual practices, that's NOT a normal part of every day conversation, and in my opinion, it shouldn't be.

I also have to confess that I do not at all understand any need for awareness of asexual people. Nothing prevents them from talking about non-sex things they do with those they care about already, and I don't see that there's any good reason to make people aware of the sex that they're not having. That one just really baffles me. I mean, I genuinely do not care if a person is asexual, that's perfectly fine, there's nothing wrong with it, and it doesn't matter. I just don't see why that needs to be a topic of discussion of any sort at all, except in a very very few situations.
 
I got interested in the "harm" question when I saw SuburbanTurkey's discussion of the NY Post article about Wi Spa, and, specifically, the fact that Andy Ngo was the reporter. ST thought that was significant enough to comment on, and he seemed to think it somehow mattered. For those people who don't know, Andy covered a lot of the Antifa/Proud Boy clashes in Portland. He got beaten up a bit by Antifa folks, and he really didn't have much nice to say about them.

It got me thinking. To ST, are these questions about transgender rights really significant, or are they just an aspect of the anti-fascist (i.e. anti-extreme right) wars? Do people, including ST, actually care about who takes off their clothes around whom, or is it just a case of "the enemy of my enemy is my friend?" i.e I hate fascists. Fascists hate transwomen. Therefore I like transwomen. And of course the enemy of my friend is my enemy so I like transwomen. TERFs hate transwomen. Therefore I hate TERFs.

(I won't discuss the fine points of whether someone is "really" one of those categories. It's not important.)

Were the people involved people? Or were they teammates and opponents? Of course, to everyone involved, all the people end up playing one of those roles somewhat, but how much does the politics dominate, versus actual concern for the actual people?

So I asked the question originally specifying forget politics. Eventually, the question was taken up, but it immediately jumped to the politics. Outside the spa, not on the day of the incident, fascists and counterprotestors got into violence. That's where it went to. After some discussion, finally a direct answer. Harm occurred if and only if the person was posing as a transwoman. If Darren Merager were an actual transwoman, no harm.

A few people pointed out the problem with that. There was no way for the cis women to know whether Darren was "really" anything other than what he appeared to be. Moreover, though, it's basically saying, "If he is on my team, he did nothing wrong. If he is actually cheating, pretending to be on my team, he did something wrong. And harm only occurred if he did something wrong."

I don't know. Make of it what you will. It sure seems to me like the cause ends up being more important than the people.

I also want to relate incidents like Wi Spa to another recent topic, which is the prevalence of heterosexual imagery in our society. We can quibble, but it's not hard to understand what ST is saying, and he's right. We are surrounded by romantic movies, and clothes which enhance sex appeal, and sometimes public displays of affection, and sexy ladies in advertisements. Movies almost always have a romantic line in them, and it's almost always heterosexual. If it isn't, it's almost always lesbian, because guys think that's hot, and.....very rarely, some gay males.

Sometimes some trans people for novelty.

It's not hard to understand why. We like sex. What's really important in life? What really drives us? It's mostly sex, relationships, and family. It turns out, scientists have even discovered a connection between sex and family. Go figure. We think about sex a lot. It might just be noticing who is good looking and who is not good looking. It might be fantasies. It might be actively trying to start up a sexual encounter or a long term relationship, but it's really ever present.

It also might be, especially for women, trying to avoid males who are on the prowl.

And yet, when a naked guy is walking around a bunch of naked women, no one is supposed to care or notice? Oh...yeah... that's not actually a guy, because in hi...her head, she thinks of herself as female so, just go about your business, exactly as you do for the other girls?

It defies human nature to think that is going to happen.

Maybe, just maybe, you can find a way to get people to make exceptions, and not think about that particular person as a guy, despite being able to see what many people would consider definitive,evidence to the contrary.


But the important thing, the truly important thing, is that the fascists hate her, so we'll take her side in any conflict that arises.
 
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Pretty sure EC means agenderist, that is, someone who doesn't believe in the tenets of gender ideology.

Even a bit further. I actively disbelieve in the validity and utility of 'gender' in all of its flavors, not solely those adopted by gender ideology. I do not accept or believe that socially constructed stereotypes, behavioral expectations, presentation, etc. is of any use or worthy of any consideration or acceptance. I do not believe that 'gender' exists as anything other than a flight of human fantasy.

I've fought against gender my entire life, much more so now that an ideology has sprung up around it, intent on resurrecting the old catechism of mind-body duality.

Agenderist is of course a more technically correct term, but in most cases, "gender atheist" communicates the concept fairly well... except I think among other actual atheists!
 
More info on Loudoun county rapist:

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/ar...ed-female-classmate-says-identifies-male.html

The information comes from an interview with rapist's mom.

Basic takeaways:

The kid was extremely troubled and in lots of problems at school.
She says he doesn't identify as either male or gender fluid, but he did sometimes wear skirts to school.
The headline on a lot of the coverage will be that she appears to blame the victim. That's fair, based on what she says, although it's not as straightforward as that.

Here's the one piece of information that I think has some relevance. After he was arrested for the rape, she says the principal asked how he identifies. She informed him that her son identified as male. The principal said the people at school were unaware of that.
 
I also have to confess that I do not at all understand any need for awareness of asexual people. Nothing prevents them from talking about non-sex things they do with those they care about already, and I don't see that there's any good reason to make people aware of the sex that they're not having. That one just really baffles me. I mean, I genuinely do not care if a person is asexual, that's perfectly fine, there's nothing wrong with it, and it doesn't matter. I just don't see why that needs to be a topic of discussion of any sort at all, except in a very very few situations.

Many of them still want emotional relationships that are more than just friendship. That can be difficult when people they interact with don't understand what they're all about.
 
Pretty sure EC means agenderist, that is, someone who doesn't believe in the tenets of gender ideology.
I googled agenderist as I didn't know the term, cool. My opinion is '**** gender, be yourself'. **** Ideology it never helps.
This idea of labelling is not conducive to anything, just be yourself and be contented.
 
I do not believe that 'gender' exists as anything other than a flight of human fantasy.
This probably isn't the thread, but I definitely wouldn't go that far. Some gender stereotypes (e.g. men are generally less sexually discriminating and more into random hookups) strike me as mostly the result of actual sex differences which may be accounted for in evolutionary terms.
 
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It's still correlated with sex. The whole point of transgender identity is to correlate with the opposite sex.
I don't think gender has to have any link with biological sex, it's a variable I think.

my original posts in this thread were about how lgb are fighting against fitting in, whereas the t was trying to fit in.
I seem to have lead my self astray, thx theprestige for getting me back on track.
 
I don't think gender has to have any link with biological sex, it's a variable I think.

my original posts in this thread were about how lgb are fighting against fitting in, whereas the t was trying to fit in.
I seem to have lead my self astray, thx theprestige for getting me back on track.

None of your posts that I've seen have been on track.
 
I got interested in the "harm" question when I saw SuburbanTurkey's discussion of the NY Post article about Wi Spa, and, specifically, the fact that Andy Ngo was the reporter. ST thought that was significant enough to comment on, and he seemed to think it somehow mattered. For those people who don't know, Andy covered a lot of the Antifa/Proud Boy clashes in Portland. He got beaten up a bit by Antifa folks, and he really didn't have much nice to say about them.

It got me thinking. To ST, are these questions about transgender rights really significant, or are they just an aspect of the anti-fascist (i.e. anti-extreme right) wars? Do people, including ST, actually care about who takes off their clothes around whom, or is it just a case of "the enemy of my enemy is my friend?" i.e I hate fascists. Fascists hate transwomen. Therefore I like transwomen. And of course the enemy of my friend is my enemy so I like transwomen. TERFs hate transwomen. Therefore I hate TERFs.

(I won't discuss the fine points of whether someone is "really" one of those categories. It's not important.)

Were the people involved people? Or were they teammates and opponents? Of course, to everyone involved, all the people end up playing one of those roles somewhat, but how much does the politics dominate, versus actual concern for the actual people?

So I asked the question originally specifying forget politics. Eventually, the question was taken up, but it immediately jumped to the politics. Outside the spa, not on the day of the incident, fascists and counterprotestors got into violence. That's where it went to. After some discussion, finally a direct answer. Harm occurred if and only if the person was posing as a transwoman. If Darren Merager were an actual transwoman, no harm.

A few people pointed out the problem with that. There was no way for the cis women to know whether Darren was "really" anything other than what he appeared to be. Moreover, though, it's basically saying, "If he is on my team, he did nothing wrong. If he is actually cheating, pretending to be on my team, he did something wrong. And harm only occurred if he did something wrong."

I don't know. Make of it what you will. It sure seems to me like the cause ends up being more important than the people.

I also want to relate incidents like Wi Spa to another recent topic, which is the prevalence of heterosexual imagery in our society. We can quibble, but it's not hard to understand what ST is saying, and he's right. We are surrounded by romantic movies, and clothes which enhance sex appeal, and sometimes public displays of affection, and sexy ladies in advertisements. Movies almost always have a romantic line in them, and it's almost always heterosexual. If it isn't, it's almost always lesbian, because guys think that's hot, and.....very rarely, some gay males.

Sometimes some trans people for novelty.

It's not hard to understand why. We like sex. What's really important in life? What really drives us? It's mostly sex, relationships, and family. It turns out, scientists have even discovered a connection between sex and family. Go figure. We think about sex a lot. It might just be noticing who is good looking and who is not good looking. It might be fantasies. It might be actively trying to start up a sexual encounter or a long term relationship, but it's really ever present.

It also might be, especially for women, trying to avoid males who are on the prowl.

And yet, when a naked guy is walking around a bunch of naked women, no one is supposed to care or notice? Oh...yeah... that's not actually a guy, because in hi...her head, she thinks of herself as female so, just go about your business, exactly as you do for the other girls?

It defies human nature to think that is going to happen.

Maybe, just maybe, you can find a way to get people to make exceptions, and not think about that particular person as a guy, despite being able to see what many people would consider definitive,evidence to the contrary.


But the important thing, the truly important thing, is that the fascists hate her, so we'll take her side in any conflict that arises.

There's a lot in here. A lot of it, I think is on point. But I think ST's positions are sincerely held. While I've seen little nuance in either his trans-rights or his anti-fascist positions, and he does link them in his arguments, I don't think one produces the other.

I think it's just convenient that one target of his ire takes the opposite side on another topic. Convenient in that it allows an argument by association to be employed. ("Eat your peas! Nazi's hate peas, and you wouldn't want to be a Nazi, would you?")

But you are right about the ubiquity of sex and the human nature side of it. What is unclear is if that particular aspect of human nature is instinctual or conditioned.

It's true that, for whatever reason all of the major cultures seem to have developed a sense of modesty, particularly (but not exclusively) towards the opposite sex. On the other hand my parent's subscription to National Geographic when I was a kid suggests to me that there is much less of a sense of modesty among primitive cultures. Not being an anthropologist, I'm not sure I'm entirely correct in that regard, but that's my impression.

Maybe it has something to do with population density. I know population density brings out different behavior in rats (Secret of NIMH). Maybe modesty is triggered somehow. I don't know.

Or maybe it's culturally conditioned and there has always been enough cultural exchange for it to spread.
 
There's a lot in here. A lot of it, I think is on point. But I think ST's positions are sincerely held. While I've seen little nuance in either his trans-rights or his anti-fascist positions, and he does link them in his arguments, I don't think one produces the other.

So, some clarifications.

I didn't intend to accuse ST of insincerity. I think the beliefs of all participants in this thread are sincere.

Second, I talked about hatred of fascism, but these things don't exist in a vacuum. The hatred of fascism (as he identifies it) could arise from a desire to protect oppressed minorities, in which case the desire to protect transgenders creates the hatred of fascism, which then reinforces the desire to support the people that fascists considers enemies.

Third, placing a cause over people is something we all do, to some extent, if we are the sorts of folks who like to argue politics. We like it when we have someone or some situation we can report to that creates sympathy for "our side". The girls of Palatine High School are real people, but if I'm being honest they are also examples I can use to bolster my side of an argument. Neither side has a monopoly on political exploitation of the various actors in various news stories.

Nevertheless, what I see in a lot of trans-inclusive supporters, including ST, is a disregard for the specifics of the actual people and reasons for the conflict. They are a minority. The right wing hates them. What more do you need to know? That's it.

Many of us have spent the better part of 600 pages of this thread, and various other threads before it and aside it, trying to engage with principles related to the definition of the sexes, with the reasons for segregation of various aspects of society, the science related to sex, gender, reproduction, sexual dimorphism and on and on and on. Most trans-inclusive supporters, are less interested in that, and more interested in the dynamics of groups. All that psychological stuff seems like academic games. They're more into, "TERF!!!!!!!!!!!!" and, "You're on the same side as the fascists!" Sometimes they might go into some of the science related to the development of gender dysphoria, but darned near never do they discuss either the science or the experience of people who want to keep their clothes on around men, or want to only race against other females.

I think that's why so many people bring up off topic references to other minorities that have historically been oppressed.

For me, when I began talking about transgender issues on this board some 12 years ago, I didn't even know what the condition was. I thought transgender was synonymous with transexual (i.e. surgically altered). I've learned a lot since then. I've modified my views a lot. However, I like to think that I've analyzed this specific problem by looking at the issues faced by these specific people in these situations.

The short version of my current position is that we should live and let live, but modesty is a valid lived condition, and humans are sexually dimorphic. Therefore, segregation by sex makes sense when people are naked, or when engaging in athletic competitions, and what happened to blacks, or gays, or whoever doesn't change that.

It's true that, for whatever reason all of the major cultures seem to have developed a sense of modesty, particularly (but not exclusively) towards the opposite sex. On the other hand my parent's subscription to National Geographic when I was a kid suggests to me that there is much less of a sense of modesty among primitive cultures. Not being an anthropologist, I'm not sure I'm entirely correct in that regard, but that's my impression.

I don't know how one would go about testing in such a way that eliminates cultural influence to prove whether it is instinctive or created by cultural influences.

My conclusion is that it is instinctive. That clothing is something we have literally evolved with in the 100,000 years or so since humans started wearing clothes. I think it relates to signalling of sexual receptivity, which is why different amounts of clothing serve the same purpose in different cltures. So, it's culturally shaped, but the core is instinctive. If ankles are supposed to be covered in your culture, then a girl showing her ankle is sending a signal, and it's very likely to produce the desired reaction in the male viewer. How much or what kinds of clothing is considered revealing varies with culture, but in every culture, there is some expected amount of clothing

Why the heck is a woman in her underwear more sexy than a woman in a bikini? It's irrational. But it's true. I think it's because the underwear is something that is supposed to be hidden. I also think that the core of "modesty" is not wanting to send that signal unless you really mean it.

I don't know how one would prove or disprove that hypothesis.
 
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More info on Loudoun county rapist:

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/ar...ed-female-classmate-says-identifies-male.html

The information comes from an interview with rapist's mom.

Basic takeaways:

The kid was extremely troubled and in lots of problems at school.
She says he doesn't identify as either male or gender fluid, but he did sometimes wear skirts to school.
The headline on a lot of the coverage will be that she appears to blame the victim. That's fair, based on what she says, although it's not as straightforward as that.

Here's the one piece of information that I think has some relevance. After he was arrested for the rape, she says the principal asked how he identifies. She informed him that her son identified as male. The principal said the people at school were unaware of that.

Kinda sounds like this trans-panic was another dud. This kid is absolutely a predator and is rightly being processed through the criminal justice system, and maybe the school district did not handle this appropriately by transferring him to another school where he could victimize another student, but I fail to see how there's a coverup or any of other outrageous accusations that have been made by frothy mouthed reactionaries and transphobes.
 
More info on Loudoun county rapist:


Basic takeaways:

The kid was extremely troubled and in lots of problems at school.
She says he doesn't identify as either male or gender fluid, but he did sometimes wear skirts to school.

That should have been "female". i.e. The mom says he identified as male.
 
This probably isn't the thread, but I definitely wouldn't go that far. Some gender stereotypes (e.g. men are generally less sexually discriminating and more into random hookups) strike me as mostly the result of actual sex differences which may be accounted for in evolutionary terms.

For sure (the differences in male vs female sexual behavior are influenced by selection).

I (believe) what EC is referring to is the push by proponents of this gender ideology that we all have some innate gender ID - essentially a soul - (that may or may not align with our sex) and that we should be invested in trying to figure out what that is. I saw a twitter thread several days ago pushing this and asking people what they would say if God forced them to introspect and give their true gender

Occasionally I'll see some TRAs cite a preliminary (& flawed - it didn't have controls regarding same-sex attraction) study on brain differences in TWs relative to other males. But I think it's clear most of the TRAs do not want an assay (as would reveal that many are not "true trans"). Heck, they refer to those who suggest you need gender dysphoria to be trans as "truscum"
 
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I also have to confess that I do not at all understand any need for awareness of asexual people.
Asexual people are often treated as if they don't exist or there is something fundamentally wrong with them.

I've fought against gender my entire life, much more so now that an ideology has sprung up around it, intent on resurrecting the old catechism of mind-body duality.
And yet you have argued in favour of segregating people based how well they fit gender stereotypes.

Your agender/"gender atheist" position would be a lot more believable if it meant you argued against gender segregation.

Some of them, yes. Or more precisely, some are claiming a transgender identity, without actually having any dysphoria or any resonance with the opposite sex at all.
I guess with "any resonance with the opposite sex" you mean "fit in with the stereotype you have of the opposite sex".

For example, I think that something like 95% of the prisoners claiming to be transgender right now are doing it so that either a) they get moved to a less dangerous-to-them ward or b) to gain access to victims.
If that is true, you should be able to show that safer prison systems result in fewer prisoners claiming to be transgender.

2) why I object to the ideology that makes a person's gender 'identity' be considered immutable, innate and beyond question.
Does that mean you think John Money was right in believing gender identity is mutable, learnt behaviour?
 
That should have been "female". i.e. The mom says he identified as male.

Would you agree in my characterizing this as a dud? I mean, a nasty crime and very unpleasant, but not really seeing how it's the fault of trans people or trans inclusive policies.
 
For me, when I began talking about transgender issues on this board some 12 years ago, I didn't even know what the condition was. I thought transgender was synonymous with transexual (i.e. surgically altered).
The term "transsexual" has never meant surgically altered, as proven by the fact that a person needs the diagnosis "transsexual" before getting surgery. The term "transgender" was coined as a term to include people who were traditionally called "transsexuals and transvestites" as there is overlap between the two, but lately some transsexuals such as Boudicca have claimed the term only applies to them.

The short version of my current position is that we should live and let live, but modesty is a valid lived condition, and humans are sexually dimorphic. Therefore, segregation by sex makes sense when people are naked,
Where modesty as valid, it makes no sense to expect people to be publically naked. Segregation by sex does not make it make sense.
 
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